Happiness and positive thinking

Happiness is attainable for each one of us. In fact, happiness is already inside us. Then, why do seem to be so unhappy at times? Most of us have the "something is wrong" syndrome, which means that we feel there is always something wrong in some area of our lives, be it work, or with the family, or in a relationship, or with our situation in life.

Does the following sound familiar?

-"I just need the perfect relationship and I'll be happy."

-"If I only had a different job, I'd feel better."

-"The problem is that my parents expect too much of me."

That is, we blame our unhappiness on anything else. In a nutshell, we create the "something is wrong" syndrome so that there is always something to fix that keeps us busy, and we can also blame something or somebody else. The idea of everything being all right is scary. In other words, we have a fear of our own success and so we "invent" problems.

What would happen if eve rything was all right? Imagine the situation for a moment. What would you then do? How would it be if you never feared anything? Perhaps at some point you realize that you feel there's always something wrong in your life and grow tired of the feeling. Perhaps you wonder how things would be if everything felt all right; perhaps you want to accept your own greatness.

There are ways to come to feel that everything is all right. One of them is acceptance.

When you accept everything that is, and you do not judge anything, you free yourself from those "This should be this way..." thoughts. That is, you abandon negative thinking for positive thinking. When you accept it all, and specially what you now judge is bad or wrong in your life, you give yourself the chance to feel that everything is all right, and feel good.

The question is: Can you be okay with it all? Even further, can you not only be okay but actually happy, perfectly fine and peaceful with it all? Then be it.

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Cristina Diaz is a writer, and the editor and publisher of http://www.the-benefits-of-positive-thinking.com/article. She has published ezines with useful and sound advice. She currently lives in London and devotes her time to transmit her knowledge through The Benefits Of Positive Thinking, and to write short fiction tales in Spanish.

Reading a Birth Chart: Looking for the Outstanding Features

Interpreting your chart as a whole is a skill that takes some time to develop and learning to read charts accurately will start to come with the more reading and practice that you do. In this article I am going to suggest what may be the most important features of a chart, to help guide you in making an overall reading. The order of this list is by no means fixed in stone; it is suggested as a guide to help you. In time you will come to your own method to get into a chart.

1. Start with the Ascendant

The Ascendant, itself symbolic of beginnings, is always a good place to start. What sign rises? This shows fundamentally how the individual approaches life and the themes they will encounter as they make their life's journey. Pay particular attention to close aspects to this point of the chart, as they will be vital in understanding the basic orientation of the individual.

2. The Chart Ruler

Next, focus on the Chart Ruler. What planet is it and what is its sign, house and aspects? This information in itself will tell you a great deal about the individual's main focus in life, where their energy is naturally oriented.

3. Consider the other angles and planets close to them

Look carefully at the Descendant, IC, and MC. Consider the signs and the rulers of these angles. These planets will be important in the life of the individual (although take secondary place behind the Chart Ruler).

Any planets that are placed within eight degrees of an angle are called angular planets. They are extremely important in a chart, and the tighter the aspect the more potent they are in the life of an individual. An angular planet on the Ascendant is particularly indicative of a planet that will play a major role in life.

4. Sun, Moon and Ascendant

Take a few minutes to consider Sun, Moon and Ascendant only. These three factors are crucial in the make-up of an individual. How do the three signs relate? Is there any link/clash in houses or by aspect?

5. Element and Mode emphasis

List out the signs of the Ascendant, Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, and Mars. From these is there an emphasis on one element or mode? For example, a predominance of fire may suggest an individual with much vision and creativity, who views life as a mythic journey to be conquered. An emphasis on the mutable mode might suggest someone very flexible and able to accommodate change.

The lack of an element or mode is also worth noting. A lack of water for example can suggest someone who finds it hard to contact their own feelings and who may need to dig deep to get
to them. A lack of air might suggest an inability to detach and see things in a rational, logical manner; again a skill that might come with conscious effort. A lack of cardinality could show an individual who finds it hard to get going and to really start projects off.


6. Several planets in one sign or house

When there are three or more planets in a sign or house this is said to be a Stellium. This shows a particular focus of certain energy (sign) or an area of life (house) for the individual. A great deal of the person's overall dynamic may be thrust towards this focus.

7. Aspect patterns

Look at the aspect patterns in a chart. These show major relationships between the planetary cast of characters.

8. Tight aspects

Aspects that are less than one degree in a birth chart deserve special attention; these are the most powerful connections in an individual's psyche and life. They may be considered more important than looser aspects.

9. Other outstanding features

Often there may be some outstanding feature of a chart that is not part of a standard list of items to consider. Allow your intuition some rein if there is some part of a chart that leaps out at you for attention. Although you do need to filter your intuition through your knowledge and understanding to date, it is worth paying attention to any hunch you may have!

Laura Andrikopoulos is a professional astrologer from England. Visit her website http://www.starpoetry.co.uk for personalised reports and consultations.

This article is based on an extract from her book 'Short Guides to Serious Astrology: Beginnings', available from Amazon. Visit http://www.amazon.com/author/astrologer to view all Laura's books.



AUTHOR -By Laura Andrikopoulos

Gemini Horoscope 2013

Of all the signs Gemini is definitely the one that needs to be reminded about balance. 2013 is certainly going to give you tons of opportunities for you to find balance and to discover when you are off balance. It sounds like 2013 is going to be a challenging year for the Gemini; it is actually the year many Gemini's have been waiting for. Rather than feeling overwhelmed, a Gemini will discover the passion they have long been seeking and avoid the burnout that's been slowly creeping up on them.

Gemini Career and Work Horoscope in 2013

The last few years you've been working extremely hard at your job, as you attempt to get ahead of ahead of the rest of the group. You're ready for some real challenges in your life - who are you and what can you do. You'll have to wait a little longer, because this isn't the year for that 'big deal' in your career. This is the year when you will keep up the 'good fight' you've been fighting.

This is the year to tap into all of those skills you have tucked away and use them to the best of your ability. You are going to once again be in a phase of preparation at work, but over time you are going to enjoy the 'payoff' you've been so patiently waiting for. Don't be too quick to share your plans for the future with others. There are a few people that would like to get in your way, so just stay 'hush' about move past them stealthily in 2013.

Gemini Love and Relationship Horoscope in 2013

Gemini has never had to worry about companionship or love in their life. The Gemini has the ability to get along with almost everyone. You are always seeking out new people to meet, even when you are just out and about for the day. 2013 is going to have you facing a few more challenges than previously experienced. Yes, you can easily manage your relationships but others in your life aren't so cooperative.

Don't be surprised when you find yourself having to tell others they aren't living up to your standard and that you have to take care of yourself before you focus on others. This doesn't mean you have to evict all your relationships but it is time for you to tell those that are hindering or hurting you that you no longer want to keep them in your life. This is going to be tough for you since you never want to lose friends even if they drain you.

It's important that you save your energy for the people in your life that make you happy and support you. Those are the ones that count.

Gemini Health Horoscope in 2013

Gemini's can be really unhealthy or really healthy - perhaps this is related to the twin nature of your sign. However, you'll also need to keep an eye on it this year. This is the year the opportunity is there for you to restore your health.

A great way to accomplish this is to simply set aside some time every day to participate in something that is healthy for your body. This could be a walk that supports you physically as well as spiritually. What you do isn't important - it's about doing something you like and finding balance in your health because when you do the rest of your life will also become balanced. So take this year to focus on restoring your body's balance. You know you are


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Mental peace "Relaxing with a Mental PDA"

"Relaxing with a Mental PDA" Your 5 minutes daily program to Stress management We all have this favorite expression when it comes to being stressed out, and I wouldn't bother naming all of them since it may also vary in different languages. But when it comes down to it, I think that it is how we work or even relax, for that matter that triggers stress. Ever been stressed even when you're well relaxed and bored? I know I have. Since Error! Hyperlink reference not valid. is unavoidable in life, it is important to find ways to decrease and prevent stressful incidents and decrease negative reactions to stress. Here are some of the things that can be done by just remembering it, since life is basically a routine to follow like brushing your teeth or eating breakfast. You can do a few of them in a longer span of time, but as they say-- every minute counts. Managing time Time management skills can allow you more time with your family and friends and possibly increase your performance and productivity. This will help reduce your stress. To improve your time management: · Save time by focusing and concentrating, delegating, and scheduling time for yourself. · Keep a record of how you spend your time, including work, family, and leisure time. · Prioritize your time by rating tasks by importance and urgency. Redirect your time to those activities that are important and meaningful to you. · Manage your commitments by not over- or undercommitting. Don't commit to what is not important to you. · Deal with procrastination by using a day planner, breaking large projects into smaller ones, and setting short-term deadlines. · Examine your beliefs to reduce conflict between what you believe and what your life is like. Build healthy coping strategies It is important that you identify your coping strategies. One way to do this is by recording the stressful event, your reaction, and how you cope in a stress journal. With this information, you can work to change unhealthy coping strategies into healthy ones-those that help you focus on the positive and what you can change or control in your life. Lifestyle Some behaviors and lifestyle choices affect your stress level. They may not cause stress directly, but they can interfere with the ways your body seeks relief from stress. Try to: · Balance personal, work, and family needs and obligations. · Have a sense of purpose in life. · Get enough sleep, since your body recovers from the stresses of the day while you are sleeping. · Eat a balanced diet for a nutritional defense against stress. · Get moderate exercise throughout the week. · Limit your consumption of alcohol. · Don't smoke. Social support Social support is a major factor in how we experience stress. Social support is the positive support you receive from family, friends, and the community. It is the knowledge that you are cared for, loved, esteemed, and valued. More and more research indicates a strong relationship between social support and better mental and physical health. Changing thinking When an event triggers negative thoughts, you may experience fear, insecurity, anxiety, depression, rage, guilt, and a sense of worthlessness or powerlessness. These emotions trigger the body's stress, just as an actual threat does. Dealing with your negative thoughts and how you see things can help reduce stress. · Thought-stopping helps you stop a negative thought to help eliminate stress. · Disproving irrational thoughts helps you to avoid exaggerating the negative thought, anticipating the worst, and interpreting an event incorrectly. · Problem solving helps you identify all aspects of a stressful event and find ways to deal with it. · Changing your communication style helps you communicate in a way that makes your views known without making others feel put down, hostile, or intimidated. This reduces the stress that comes from poor communication. Use the assertiveness ladder to improve your communication style. Even writers like me can get stressed even though we're just using our hands to do the talking, but having to sit for 7 or 8 hours is already stressful enough and have our own way to relieve stress. Whether you're the mail guy, the CEO, or probably the average working parent, stress is one unwanted visitor you would love to boot out of your homes, especially your life.